Nigerian comedian Funnybone has spoken about the importance of understanding the different backgrounds and values people bring into marriage.
Speaking about relationships, he said people often carry lessons from their family homes into their marriages, which can sometimes create conflict between couples.
“There is no bad individual in that bad marriage. That man was good, that woman was good, but you’re coming from where you are carrying what you’re carrying from your foundation,” he said.
Funnybone explained that a man who grew up in a home where his father always had the final say could enter marriage expecting his voice to carry the same weight.
He contrasted this with a woman who grew up in a home where her mother was more dominant while her father often withdrew to maintain peace.
According to him, neither person is necessarily bad; they are simply bringing the values they grew up with into the relationship.
“This guy would constantly want his value and his voice to be heard. This girl wants her own value to shine. Now that doesn’t make her a bad person. They are both manifesting their values,” he said.
Funnybone advised couples to find common ground, give each other room to express themselves and have people who can hold them accountable.
He also disagreed with the idea that couples should simply be left alone to resolve their problems.
“I don’t take the popular quote that leave two adults to work it out. What do you know that you’re working out?” he said.
He added that having no one with enough authority to correct or guide a person can be dangerous in relationships, business and family.
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